To overshare or to undershare? 

​7th July 2026

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| pt.1: the online space |

 

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I sat down with my bestie Mimi, better known as DJ: dozie, or blogger: catching z’s. Both as chronic oversharers, we dissect trying to navigate this balance between oversharing and undersharing, in several different areas in our life. In this first part, we discuss the online space and how we find navigating (possibly unsuccessfully) that balance whilst having a social presence. Let’s get into it. 

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India: So, Mimi, do you think you're an oversharer, and in what scenarios, or in all scenarios, do you think you overshare? 

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Mimi: I feel like more recently I like to preserve my peace a bit more. But I [do] feel like I overshare in different settings where I want to seem more interesting or funny or cool or all of these things.

 

I always feel like oversharing and being overconfident and giving that I don't give a fuck energy is therefore going to tick one of those boxes. But then, upon reflection you're always like I feel as though that whole thing was fake. Even though I actually wasn’t being fake, if anything I was being open and authentically me. But when I overshare for a desired outcome - that's when it feels performative, and I get in my head about whether I’m expressing myself freely or expressing myself to manage how someone else is perceiving me.

 

I feel like you’re really good at oversharing in quite a creative way online. I don't feel like I've got that etiquette of oversharing, I'm just doing it in a weird way in real life. 

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India: Let's chat about social media and releasing yourself as an art form and then how that feeds into oversharing.

 

How do you feel like you navigate that and do you think you do a good job or do you think you hold back? 

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Mimi: I feel like through having a DJ persona, [my old DJ name] was just my name: Mimi. [Back then,] I found it really hard to lock in and give myself to promoters and people online…because it felt so similar to my actual being.

 

I think rebranding and having a new name (which is dozie), has helped me almost feel like when I'm making video content and networking in person, I don't actually feel like I'm oversharing as much anymore. I feel like I'm tapping into a new personality and that doesn't that doesn't feel as uncomfortable.

 

I'm Hannah Montana lol - sharing that little part that to everyone else, feels like I'm giving so much, but I'm actually, kind of, not. 

 

India: You’ve separated the two then, almost as different parts of yourself, because you have this brand. 

 

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Mimi: I don't know if that's how you feel with tits up, is India in real life separated from India online?

 

India: I think that's so hard because tits up is obviously completely personal to me and most, if not all, of the things I write about are very anecdotal; they're things that have happened to me or things that I'm drawing on from my personal experiences and then extrapolating into something wider. 

 

So, I get what you mean about the distinction between the two, but I feel like the brand that I've created is me, if that makes sense. Therefore, I probably don't have that separation. 

 

 

Mimi: Do you ever worry about wanting to change your content when your audience is so used to this oversharing nature? 

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India: When I started the blog, it was tits up travel, and was like that for six months. I was very much like I'm boxed in, everything I have to write about has to be a funny travel story, and that's when I thought, actually no, fuck that, there's so many other things I want to write about too. But I still wanted to keep that essence of being very raw and candid, so I think I managed to break that down through that transition. But I completely get what you mean. I feel like there is always a part of me that's like well it's still got to have this tits up energy or it's got to be self-deprecating, so definitely I feel like I do carry that pressure a bit.

 

That's when I like to draw from other things, e.g. one of the things I recently wrote: is feeling unloveable fundamental to the female experience? That's not how I'm feeling right now, I haven't felt like that for a year or two. I was kind of reading through past things I'd written, took inspiration from that and then spoke to other people, took inspiration from that, etc. 

 

So it's kind of an amalgamation of loads of different areas coming together. It's less about fuck this happened to me today, I’ve got to film it and more so, just starting with that candid tone and foundation and then turning it into something. 

 

 

Mimi: Do you think you overshare online?

 

India: [Honestly], I don't think I overshare that much [or] really expose myself. [It’s not] until someone makes a comment like that, [that I even think about it]. Because there's so many other things going on that I'm not, and would never, put online.

 

This all leads to the overarching idea of what is oversharing?

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My sister said to me that you've got to be aware of opening yourself up online when I spoke about having anxiety about something. But, to me, or to us, who know so much of what is going on our own lives, it feels like we're skimming the surface, you know what I mean? Like we've not even cracked down into any of the juicy stuff. So it doesn't feel like oversharing for the most part. 

 

 

 

Our conversation continues, where we dissect how we both have a tendency to overshare in person, whether that's amongst friends, meeting new people or in dating scenarios. Stayed tuned for parts 2 and 3, coming soon. 

 

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