25 things I've learned by 25

It's not your responsibility to drive every conversation you’re in.

You don’t have to say yes to everyone and everything.

Moving to the other side of the world (or anywhere for that matter) will never automatically heal your issues.

Do the hard thing, have the hard conversation.

Going for a swim or being in the ocean will almost always stop your head noise.

Unless you’ve behaved wrongly, if someone randomly dumps or ghosts you, it isn't because you’re not hot enough, funny enough or interesting enough, take it away from yourself - and trying to become those things won’t bring them back to you.

Your hair is blonde enough, don’t dye it again. 

Some things are deep, some just fucking aren’t. Compartmentalise and prioritise.

You don’t need to be drunk to have fun.

Female friendships, especially in your 20s, are invaluable. They will teach you more than most relationships will. 

Occasionally cancelling on people doesn’t make you a bad person.

Everyone should go to therapy, it doesn’t have to be for a life threatening mental illness, it’s exercise for your brain. 

Not every decision has to be the perfect decision.

It’s important to make the most of both ends of the day.

Men will be shitty, it doesn't matter what corner of the world they're from.

Things are only embarrassing if you let yourself be embarrassed. 

Take time for the little things: getting coffee from your favourite place, journalling, eating lunch outside - they make more of a difference than you’d think. 

Everyone cares what people think of them to a certain degree (even if they claim they don't), just don't let it stop you from doing what you want to do.

Rely on and trust yourself, you've gotten through things that felt impossible at the time, and you will do it again and again.

It's actually okay to relax!! 

You really can’t make everyone like you, which is a hard pill to swallow - but you're just not for everyone and that's okay. 

Unfollowing or blocking someone isn’t always malicious and immature, it's sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself - out of sight out of mind.

It’s okay, and actually necessary, to not be the centre of attention all the time.​

Being alone isn't just important, it's fundamental to your sanity.

Having anxiety doesn't make you weak - and pretending you're okay doesn't make you strong.